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By LENORE SKENAZY

Last week, the lieutenant governor of Massachusetts, Timothy Murray, noticed smoke coming out of a minivan in his hometown of Worcester. He raced over and pulled out two small children, moments before the van's tire exploded into flames. At which point, according to the AP account, the kids' grandmother, who had been driving, nearly punched our hero in the face.

Why?

Mr. Murray said she told him she thought he might be a kidnapper.

And so it goes these days, when almost any man who has anything to do with a child can find himself suspected of being a creep. I call it "Worst-First" thinking: Gripped by pedophile panic, we jump to the very worst, even least likely, conclusion first. Then we congratulate ourselves for being so vigilant.

Consider the Iowa daycare center where Nichole Adkins works. The one male aide employed there, she told me in an interview, is not allowed to change diapers. "In fact," Ms. Adkins said, "he has been asked to leave the classroom when diapering was happening."

Now, a guy turned on by diaper changes has got to be even rarer than a guy turned on by Sponge Bob. But "Worst-First" thinking means suspecting the motives of any man who chooses to work around kids.

Maybe the daycare center felt it had to be extra cautious, to avoid lawsuits. But regular folk are suspicious, too. Last February, a woman followed a man around at a store berating him for clutching a pile of girls' panties. "I can't believe this! You're disgusting. This is a public place, you pervert!" she said—until the guy, who posted about the episode on a website, fished out his ID. He was a clerk restocking the underwear department.

Given the level of distrust, is it any wonder that, as the London Telegraph reported last month, the British Musicians' Union warned its members they are no longer to touch a child's fingers, even to position them correctly on the keys? Or that a public pool in Sydney, Australia last fall prohibited boys from changing in the same locker room as the men? (According to the Daily Telegraph in Sydney, the men demanded this, fearing false accusations.)

What's really ironic about all this emphasis on perverts is that it's making us think like them. Remember the story that broke right before Christmas? The FBI warned law-enforcement agencies that the new Video Barbie could be used to make kiddie porn. The warning was not intended for the public but it leaked out. TV news celebrated the joy of the season by telling parents that any man nice enough to play dolls with their daughters could really be videotaping "under their little skirts!" as one Fox News reporter said.

This queasy climate is making men think twice about things they used to do unselfconsciously. A friend of mine, Eric Kozak, was working for a while as a courier. Driving around an unfamiliar neighborhood, he says, "I got lost. I saw a couple kids by the side of the road and rolled down my window to ask, 'Where is such-and-such road?' They ran off screaming."

Another dad told me about taking his three-year-old to play football in the local park, where he'd help organize the slightly older kids into a game. Over time, one of the kids started to look up to him. "He wanted to stand close to me, wanted approval, Dad stuff, I guess. And because of this whole 'stranger danger' mentality, I could sense this sort of wary disapproval from the few other parents at the playground. So I just stopped going."

And that's not the worst. In England in 2006, BBC News reported the story of a bricklayer who spotted a toddler at the side of the road. As he later testified at a hearing, he didn't stop to help for fear he'd be accused of trying to abduct her. You know: A man driving around with a little girl in his car? She ended up at a pond and drowned.

We think we're protecting our kids by treating all men as potential predators. But that's not a society that's safe. Just sick.


http://online.wsj.com/article/SB100...6073752925629440.html?mod=WSJ_Opinion_LEADTop
 

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I had a friend pick up a 3 year old boy he found walking around on a busy highway by his house. He drove the boy to his local Police Station where he spent the night in a holding cell until he could be questioned by Detectives in the morning.

That is the world we now live in.

I always tell the story about my early days at the local "Boy's Club of America". Our football coach (Sonny) would ref our football games, running up and down the often muddy South Miami field with the play. After the game he would shower with us in the old time common showers. Sonny was a former OK football star and taught us a great deal about life and sports. He remained a friend of mine and provided counsel to me all through school. As kid without a father Sonny was important to my development as a person. Today Sonny's actions would not be tolerated.

A sad state when perverts, criminals and terrorists dictate how we live our lives. We have forgot the values that makes this country great and are becoming a country of whiners giving up our freedoms daily. The Libs pass laws to "protect" us and the Conservatives form large Federal Agencies to "protect" us. Both need to take a lesson from our ancestors. Let us live free and allow the citizens to protect themselves.

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A sad state when perverts, criminals and terrorists dictate how we live our lives. We have forgot the values that makes this country great and are becoming a country of whiners giving up our freedoms daily. The Libs pass laws to "protect" us and the Conservatives form large Federal Agencies to "protect" us. Both need to take a lesson from our ancestors. let us live free and allow the citizens to protect themselves.

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Well stated.
 

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This is a result of the media hype. Not much people will do about it beyond exercising common sense.
This is an intended outcome in the war for degenderfication. Remove the male role in the upbringing of our children.
 

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Ya there are perverts out there but common. Some of the best influences in my life were from male teachers. They often treat you more like adults and less like mindless children and they will talk to you straight.
 

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Men in America have reached a sad, new low in public opinion. Unfortunately, lots of men have not had much, if any, positive male parenting. It seems to me that since the women's lib movement, men have abdicated role as head of the household. Now all men are considered suspicious. It's tragic.
 

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Now that ! -is a good and sharp women. :thumbsup:
 

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I can tell you that all of the news about priests and the Catholic church hasn't helped men in this respect either.
 
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